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A Family For Every Child
1675 West 11th Avenue
Eugene, OR 97402

Fax: 541-343-2866

Tax I.D. 20-4151057

Christy Obie-Barrett,
Executive Director

A Family For Every Child is a non-profit organization that serves families, children, and agencies nationwide. Thank you for all your support.

What a Forever Family Means

By Jessica

Things Kids Should Know

Forever Families

I dreamed about my forever family for a long time.  Where I would live, what my room would look like, what my family would be like.

However, getting a new family  meant I would be getting more than just a new set of parents:

A new set of family rules and boundaries to follow.

A new group of friends.

Maybe a new school and a new town.

Even a new bedtime or pets!

It was a little scary...

All the new stuff, including my forever family members, was a lot to get used to. Remember to be honest about your feelings with your new parent (s) and to think of things that would help you feel more comfortable. Your ideas matter!

Do I have to love my new family immediately?

I was nervous about having to love my new family immediately. I was also not sure what to call my new parent (s). Don’t worry, you will know what to do when the moment comes. It can take time for new families to grow close to each other - after all you’ve just met!

You may need to unlearn stuff too.

I had to unlearn some of the things I was already doing, like how to brush my teeth well.

Things that make your life in your new family go easier:

  • Using your words and telling your new family how you are feeling - scared, sad, mad, or happy!
  • Blowing bubbles or squeezing a stress toy when you are upset.
  • Being open to learning new things and trying a new routine
  • Telling adults how you are feeling (your case worker or mom or dad).
  • Writing a journal or making artwork.
  • Ask to be part of an activity, like story hour, Sunday school at church, or sports.
  • Listen to music

What Forever Means

Forever means that your birth family is now
part of your past.  For some reason, they were
not able to take care of you.  Adults whose job
it is to take care of kids determined that you
needed other people to take care of you. 
This is your ‘forever’ family.

When you are adopted, you may not see your
birth family again until you are an adult and
maybe not even then.

It is okay to miss them and think about them. 
They are a part of what makes you, you!  Just
as much as your forever family is going to make
new memories with you and shape you as you grow
up too.  Sometimes writing a letter to your birth
family to say goodbye helps.