What a Forever Family Means
Things Kids Should Know
I dreamed about my forever family for a long time. Where I would live, what my room would look like, what my family would be like.
However, getting a new family meant I would be getting more than just a new set of parents:
A new set of family rules and boundaries to follow.
A new group of friends.
Maybe a new school and a new town.
Even a new bedtime or pets!
It was a little scary...
All the new stuff, including my forever family members, was a lot to get used to. Remember to be honest about your feelings with your new parent (s) and to think of things that would help you feel more comfortable. Your ideas matter!
Do I have to love my new family immediately?
I was nervous about having to love my new family immediately. I was also not sure what to call my new parent (s). Don’t worry, you will know what to do when the moment comes. It can take time for new families to grow close to each other - after all you’ve just met!
You may need to unlearn stuff too.
I had to unlearn some of the things I was already doing, like how to brush my teeth well.
Things that make your life in your new family go easier:
- Using your words and telling your new family how you are feeling - scared, sad, mad, or happy!
- Blowing bubbles or squeezing a stress toy when you are upset.
- Being open to learning new things and trying a new routine
- Telling adults how you are feeling (your case worker or mom or dad).
- Writing a journal or making artwork.
- Ask to be part of an activity, like story hour, Sunday school at church, or sports.
- Listen to music
What Forever Means
Forever means that your birth family is now
When you are adopted, you may not see your
It is okay to miss them and think about them.