Adoption Information
Attachment and Bonding

The Whole Life Adoption Book
Jayne Schooler
This book offers encouragement and practical information to help you respond to your adopted child’s unique struggles and your own feelings of inadequacy or frustration. It addresses such issues as attachment, adjustment and identity and provides "ten essential success factors for healthy adoptive families."

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Sexually Reactive Children in Adoption and Foster Care
Joan McNamara
This anthology discusses the complicated intertwining of abuse and attachment and the need to effectively respond to children’s abuse-reactive behaviors.

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When Love is Not Enough
Ellen & Veronica Notbohm & Zysk
The 7 chapters in this book offer strategies and considerations regarding sensory integration, communication and language, behavior, daily living skills, social skills, teaching and education, and Special Education law. Not a book on theory, it offers page after page of practical, Martha Stewart style ideas that you or others working with your child can apply.

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Right Fit, The: Finding Effective Help for Families with Attachment Challenged Children (CD)
In this audio program, Juli Alvarado, at Coaching for Life, (, interviews Jennifer Winkelmann. Juli speaks from her role as a mother to foster and biological children, seeking information for parents on finding the right kind of help for children with attachment challenges. Jen and Juli discuss how to find an effective therapist and equip parents and professionals with the keys to successful treatment.

Available here: Coaching For Life

Six Core Strengths for Healthy Childhood Development, The, (DVD)
Bruce Perry
This seven-part program features Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. The first part is an overview and definition of the six core strengths discussed. Each subsequent part focuses on a key skill (and ways to help children acquire that skill) critical to healthy child development: Attachment, Self Regulation, Affiliation, Attunement, Tolerance and Respect.

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Understanding and Helping Adopted and Foster Children with Emotional Problems (VHS)
Michael Katz
Many adopted and foster children have behavior problems that do not respond to traditional parenting. This video explains how underlying emotional problems involving attachment, , identity, values, developmental delays, and anger produced by painful experiences sometimes not consciously remembered, can be the major causes. A variety of methods for reducing these behaviors are demonstrated.

Achieving Success with Impossible Children: How to Win the Battle of Wills
Dave Ziegler
This book for parents, from the author of Raising Children Who Refuse to be Raised, discusses working with challenging children in various settings. It provides numerous case examples, practical applications, and hands-on suggestions, and includes chapters on mastering responsibility, positive discipline, violence, trauma, trauma therapy, attachment, residential treatment, and school success.

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Fostering Changes: Myth, Meaning and Magic Bullets in Attachment Theory
Richard Delaney
In this 3rd edition of the classic "Fostering Changes," Delaney addresses parents' concerns about their children who have been diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder, a condition related to early abuse, neglect, and/or sexual exploitation. He underscores how parents and others can help children understand and reduce acting-out behavior, increase their capacity to express feelings and needs in words, improve willingness and ability to negotiate differences, and enhance positive encounters with parents.

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Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love Based Approach to Helping Attachment-
Challenged Children With Severe Behaviors
Heather T. and Bryan Forbes and Post
This book is divided into three parts – "The Principles of a New Understanding;" "Seven Behaviors Based in Fear;" and "Parenting Bonus Section." The middle part devotes a chapter each to “Parents Appear Hostile and Angry;” “Lying;” “Stealing;” “Hoarding and Gorging;” “Aggression;” “Defiance;” and “Lack of Eye Content.” It might be useful for any one of those chapters.

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Ghosts from the Nursery
Robin Karr-Morse
This book offers startling new evidence that violent behavior is fundamentally linked to abuse and neglect in the first two years of life. Using case histories of “children who kill,’ along with the latest in brain development research, the authors show how infancy is the stage during which foundations for trust, empathy, conscience and lifelong learning and thinking are laid down or during which a predisposition to violent behavior is “hardwired” into the brain.

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Broken Spirits Lost Souls: Loving Children with Attachment and Bonding Difficulties
Jane Ryan
In the first of its three parts, Ryan describes “The problem,” but the bulk of this book is the stories of families who are raising children with attachment and bonding difficulties. The third part, “Some Solutions,” is in three chapters, “The Professionals and Their Therapies,” “Meeting the Families’ Needs,” and “Faith, Hope, and Conclusions.”

Theraplay: Helping Parents and Children Build Better Relationships Through Attachment-Based Play
Ann M. & Phyllis B. Jernberg & Booth
This book shows parents how to use play to communicate love and authority and to engage their children in interactions that develop competence, self-esteem and trust. Booth’s revised Edition, integrates Jernberg’s innovative approach with recent research on attachment and the effect of stress and trauma on child development.

Tender Healing (VHS)
Spaulding for Children
This video, from Spaulding for Children, features three segments designed to help parents and professionals better understand issues related to effective discipline and helping children make transitions and form attachments.

Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love
Robert Karen
Dr. Karen explores such questions as: What do children need to feel that the world is a positive place and that they have value? What are the risks of day care for children under one year of age, and what can parents do to manage those risks? What experiences in infancy will enable a person to develop healthy relationships as an adult?

Attachment Issues for Children Under Five Years Old (Audiotape)
Regina Kupecky and Greg Keck Audiotape
Attachment issues have their roots in the first few years of life but are often undiagnosed and therefore untreated until much later. The presenters discuss the causes, characteristics, and some interventions to help infants, toddlers, preschoolers and their parent(s).

Building the Bonds of Attachment
Daniel Hughes
This book exposes the tragedy of the unattached child, using a composite figure, Katie, a fragmented, tormented, isolated girl in foster care who is filled with terror, rage, shame and despair. It realistically portrays the experiences of poorly attached children and offers practical strategies for helping them overcome their difficulties.

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Primal Wound, The: Understanding the Adopted Child
Nancy Newton Verrier
By applying information about pre-and perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding, and loss, this book clarifies the effects on adopted children of separation from the birthmother. It also gives those children, whose pain has long been unacknowledged or misunderstood, validation for their feelings, as well as explanations for their behavior. The insight it brings to the experience of abandonment and loss will contribute to the healing of adoptees, their adoptive families, and birthparents.

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