Adoption Information
Open Adoption/Mediation

Books, Audio, CD's and VHS

Respect, Responsibility, and Commitment in Open Adoptions (CD)

Open Adoption through the Years: What Are the Challenges? (CD)

Respect, Responsibility, and Commitment in Open Adoptions (Audiotape)

Open Adoption through the Years: What Are the Challenges? (Audiotape)

The Spirit of Open Adoption
James Gritter Books

A Realistic Look at Open Adoption (Audiotape)
Lois Melina Audiotapes

Open Adoption Experience, The (Audiotape)
Lois Melina Audiotapes

The Adoption Triangle
Arthur D. Sorosky, M.D. Books

The Open Adoption Experience: A Complete Guide for Adoptive and Birth Families
Lois Ruskai Melina Books

Because I Loved You: A Birthmother’s View of Open Adoption
Patricia Dischler Books

Openness in Adoption: Exploring Family Connections
Harold D. Grotevant Books

Birth Families and Adoptive Family Relationships (Audiotape)

Openness: Making Decisions about Openness in Adoption (VHS)
Ed-Net Series Videotapes

Making Room in Our Hearts: Keeping Family Ties through Open Adoption
Micky Duxbury Books

Life Givers: Framing the Birthparent Experience in Open Adoption
James Gritter Books

Children of Open Adoption
Kathleen & Patricia Martinez Silber & Dorner Books

Kids Speak: Open Adoption (DVD)

 

 

As more and more adoptions involve some openness between the adoptive and birth parents, the issue seems
to be, what is openness?

In open adoptions, communication may include letters, emails, telephone calls, or visits. The frequency of contact ranges from every few years to several times a month or more, depending on the needs and wishes of all involved. The goals of open adoption are:

To minimize the child's loss of relationships.

To maintain and celebrate the adopted child's connections with all the important people in his or her life.

To allow children to resolve losses with truth, rather than with fantasy.

Children in foster care whose goal is adoption are likely to achieve better outcomes by maintaining their existing connections with extended birth family members, siblings, and other adults with whom they have significant attachments.

The length, frequency and nature of contact, as well as any special requests can be agreed upon between all parties involved. When discussing the nature and frequency of ongoing contact, it is important to involve the special and impartial skills of an adoption professional or mediator.

An open adoption agreement is a detailed contract
between the
birth parent(s) and the adoptive family. This contract is negotiated prior to finalization and is made part
of the adoption; it is not something that can be added
after the adoption.

These agreements normally detail the type of contact and role the birth parent's play now and into the future; from
day to day activities, letters, gifts, yearly vacations, phone calls, two sided contact or one sided contact. Like any contract, everything is negotiable.

You should also take the following into consideration when thinking about an open adoption agreement:

  • Is this agreement in the best interest of the
    child(ren)?
  • Is this type of contract suitable for our family?
  • Is the contract for birth mom and birth dad the
    same? If not, can we live up to both agreements?
  • Is contact with the birth family, in general, in everyone's best interest?
  • Is contact with other birth siblings in the best
    interest of our child(ren) and the other siblings?
  • Is your wish to have a child over-shadowing your intentions for a balanced open adoption agreement?

Open Adoption Agreements are not legal in all states and each state has different rules and laws that govern these agreements.

Walk into this agreement with your eyes open!

 

 
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