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Change

“If you don’t like something, change it.  If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” Maya Angelou  (April 4, 1928 – May 28, 2014) Change is a natural part of life.  We experience it constantly.  There are many situations which we have the power to induce change.  We change our clothes, our speech, our behavior.  We change the sheets on the bed and change a tire when it’s flat.  We make change when we purchase ...

I Choose You

Sara Bareilles has a new song entitled “I Choose You”.  The song is clearly a love song, but is it only appropriate for lovers?  Isn’t it also appropriate for the beautiful choice of adoption?  Adoption is an act of love freely given to another.  It is the choice to willingly open one’s heart to risk.  It can be scary, hard, painful, but isn’t this the case with all love?   I have posted the lyrics, but ...

Temporary Things

He stands in the kitchen with a guilty look on his face.  I scan the counters in search of what might be the reason for the smirk.  I do not see anything unusual…at least not at first.  I glance back at him and my eyes fall to his skinny neck.  There in bright red and blue is the face of Spiderman resting right below his left ear.  He smiles as I feel a frown crease ...

No Man Left Behind

The United States Marine Corps have a motto they live and die by… “Until they are home, no man left behind.” The statement is simple and clear.  This basic principle is ingrained in each soldier.  In the battle and on foreign soil each Marine is to take care of the man next to him.  He is not to be concerned with his own welfare, but with the welfare of his fellow brothers.  “Ours is a ...

Birds of a Feather…

The traffic was moving steady for early afternoon until the car begins to slow in front of me.  I tap my brakes and bring my Honda to a slower pace.  I cannot tell what is causing the sudden traffic jam, but I figure there must be a Highway patrol officer on the road or an accident.  I scan the shoulder of the highway searching for the culprit.  It is then that I notice a car ...

We All Must Do Our Part

The statistics on child abuse in the US are staggering and horrifying.  There is no way to sugarcoat the hard reality that in our country more than four children die every day as a result of child abuse (www.childhelp.org).   How can this happen?  We are a country founded on the declaration that “all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and ...

A Year in the Life of a Foster Mom

It is the beginning of spring. The cherry trees that flank Bakersfield's monolithic Department of Human Services building are blooming. As visitors approach the lobby doors, the fragrant white blossoms offer a final moment of solace, a peace before the storm. Inside, the din of screaming infants and toddlers makes it difficult to hear. Social workers stream through a code-protected door, shuttling to and from visiting rooms with parents and children in tow. You can ...

The Love of Motherhood

“Close your eyes, Mom!”  He commands.   His hands are held behind his back and his face conveys the excitement of the moment.  He cannot wait until Mother’s Day.   It’s Friday afternoon and school is finally out.  Sunday is an eternity away.  “But it’s not even Mother’s Day yet.”  I explain with a smile.  “I know, but you don’t have to wait that long.  You can open them now.”  He presents the packages with a flourish.  ...

Our Need For Community

We were made for relationship.  We were made for family.  We were made to thrive within the security of community.  We were never meant to journey through this life alone.  Yet, so many people find themselves in exactly that position, and nothing can be more terrifying than being alone as a new parent.  Especially when the birth of your child comes in the midst of your own bad decisions. Today’s story comes from Coos Bay, ...

The Heart of Family

  It is not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons. ~Johann Schiller The flash of a tattoo could be seen on the inside of his forearm when he turned his hand to dish up the noodles and rice.  He worked with calm efficiency as he greeted each customer with a smile.  He seemed to enjoy his job which consisted solely of serving hungry shoppers a quick lunch.  The tired ...