Recommended Books for Adoptive Parents

So, you are considering adopting. You have probably already filed your adoption request, and you are waiting to be matched with a child. Perhaps your little one has arrived home, and you are trying to figure things out. Whichever stage you are in the adoption process, it is essential to learn everything you can. Luckily, there are plenty of reading materials regarding adoption that you can use to gather as much knowledge as you can. Here are some fantastic suggestions.

Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born by Jamie Lee Curtis

This book remains a classic favorite of adoptive books of all times. Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born is an exciting story about a loving family and small child coming together to discuss the night she was born. The tone of this children’s book is fun and educational and is a great story to read with little ones.

The Eye of Adoption by Jody Dyer

If you are looking for a true adoption story, this one will demand your attention. You will love the way Jody writes about her infertility struggles and how she ended up choosing to adopt. You will also love the part where Jody interviews the birth mother. Her story has an exclusive touch of humor that will makes it a real page turner. The letters she wrote to her future child are out of this world, the book opens with “No one just adopts.”

Modern Families: Parents and Children in New Family Forms by Dr. Susan Golombok

This adoption book highlights the various modern families such as same-sex, single parenting, surrogacy, and IVF donors. Dr. Susan is a leading researcher who explores modern family forms. The author's perspective is that they are thriving, and so are the kids in these family structures. The book is a way of making her research exciting and easy to read. If you are wondering whether your modern family will work, this book will give you the inspiration you need.

No Biking in The House Without A Helmet by Melissa Fay Greene

The mother of nine (four that are biological), talks about the beauty of raising children in a family in a way that no other writer has. She doesn't sugar coat the challenges that come with raising kids. Melisa admits that while there are many reasons for adopting children, the most important of them all is that children are fun and lovable. She also talks about how adoption has changed since ancient times to how we perceive it today.

An Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption by Lori Holden

Most adoptions in the modern world encourage openness, which means that there is increased contact between the birth family and the adopted family. However, do we understand how open adoption should be approached? The author speaks about the challenges that open adoptions face and gives an insight into the proper way of handling them. You will find real-life stories and experiences that can help guide you through open adoptions.  By the time you'll be done, you will be educated on the best ways to approach open adoption.

Be My Baby: Parents and Children Speak About Adoption by Gail Kinn

Be My Baby is a photo-essay book featuring reflections of several stories from various perspectives, such as adopted children, birth mothers, and adoptive parents. Although the author seems to be a little biased towards traditional families, the book gives voice to the parties involved in adoption. The experiences that are enlisted in the book are heart-wrenching. This is a thought-provoking book that encourages dialogue around adoption.

Attaching in Adoption by Deborah D. Gray

The book highlights how trauma and grief can affect children. Deborah Gray gives helpful tips on how adoptive parents can create trust and improve attachment. You will learn about the challenges that may result such as learning disabilities and fetal alcohol syndrome. Deborah gives amazing parenting techniques that will come in handy irrespective of your child's age.

Surrendered Child: A Birth Mother’s Story by Karen Salyer McElmurray

The author, Karen, gave birth to a son and put him up for adoption in the '70s. At the time, Karen was a teenager and was living with her mother. She didn't have much of a choice but to surrender her child with the hope that he would have a better future. While the decision was painful, McElmurray felt that it was for the best. The book is a great read for both birth and adoptive parents as it speaks about the birth mother's side of the story. The journey of Karen re-uniting with her adult son is priceless.

From parenting tips to children's stories and adoption tips, you will gain valuable insight from reading these adoption books. By the end of each book, you will be a step closer to enjoying your adoption journey more and comprehending what everything is all about.

Brittany Waddell is a contributing writer and media specialist for Youth Villages. She often produces content for a variety of fostering blogs.

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