Get Involved

Thank you for your interest in A Family For Every Child.   Children throughout the country await loving homes and A Family For Every Child seeks to find "Forever Families" for each one of these special children.

There are many different ways to donate to A Family For Every Child.   Below, you can see some of the many ways you can make a difference in a child’s life.   Please click on any of the options to find out more information about each method of making a difference in a child’s life.

Intern with us

Learn by doing while earning course credit. We have a large number of internship positions in all areas of our operation.

Legacy Giving

Legacy giving to A Family For Every Child allows you the opportunity to know the fruits of your life's labors will change the world in good and lasting ways.

Heart Gallery Venue

Allow us to display Heart Gallery children at your place of business. One of your associates has the potential to be their "Forever Family."

Share our Site

We hope you like this site and will share this site with your friends and family. This form sends a quick e-mail to them with our link.

Professional Photographer

Are you a professional photographer? Would you like to help kids find their "Forever Families" by photographing their unique attributes?


Help foster children experience 'the good life' by exposing them to positive influences, fun activities, and life skills that most people take for granted.

Our Wish List

Help the Heart Gallery fulfill our wish list.


Volunteer in any, or many, of the Heart Gallery programs from administration to "Family Finding" to LifeBook creation.

Life Books

Help foster children remember their roots and connect with their past by creating LifeBooks.

Event Donations

We are always in need of donations for our yearly Princess for A Day event!


Family Preservation Program

There are families in our community at risk for child abuse and/or neglect. These families need guidance to move on from the past and into the next chapter of their lives, learning how to make positive changes for themselves and their families.


AFFEC's Family Preservation Program focuses on keeping the family unit together. We believe these early and often preventative steps can make the difference between a family successfully parenting their children and losing them to the foster care system. Effective family preservation efforts could keep many children from the trauma of entering foster care. AFFEC utilizes informal (self-referrals and community partners) and formal (DHS) referral processes, as well as AFFEC's own programs to identify families in need.

AFFEC's Family Preservation Program is an intervention and prevention program that is both culturally responsive and community-based. Through this program, parents and their children/youth become empowered to create positive and long term changes for their families.

AFFEC's Family Preservation Program utilizes mutual support (the giving and getting of help). Parent mentors lead by example to achieve personal growth, improve family functioning, and achieve parental and child/youth resilience.

Our Family Preservation and Parent Mentor program works with families to bring about constructive change through support, guidance, instruction and training. The ultimate goal is to maintain children safely at home in order to spare them the trauma of separation.

Keeping the Family Unit Together

Parents are looking for a supportive, non-judgmental environment to learn new parenting strategies and develop leadership and advocacy skills for their families.   AFFEC recognizes the strengths and knowledge of families and the key role they play in the lives of not only their own family members, but in the lives of other families on a similar journey.

AFFEC's Family Preservation Program   is a Parent Mentor Program that supports families connecting with one another throughout the community.   This program pairs parents with trained mentors who can provide support, encouragement, and information on ways to advocate for your child and family.

At present, the Family Preservation program is generally available only in Lane County, Oregon because of budget and resource limitations. We are interested in expanding the program in cost-effective ways; if you or your organization are interested in helping to expand it, please get in touch!

It Takes a Village and Neighbors Help Neighbors

Every day mentors use their time and their gifts to strengthen families and communities. What we are offering is the gift of time; a hand up rather than a handout. Money can help in many different ways as we are all aware; taking time to empower individuals and give them the tools to become better parents to a child who is part of our community is priceless. Many work hard to deal with the challenges of environments where unemployment, violence, and drugs are taking their toll. In the face of these obstacles, community residents look for the connections to vital resources to improve their odds of succeeding. How important and valuable is the simple gift of friendship? How rewarding would it be to pass on valuable life skills to a person or family in need of a hand up to the next step in life?

Parent Mentors

Matches are based on the needs expressed by the family, so each family is able to determine the kind of mentor they need.

We work with families as a team to see to it that the family is provided services and training (e.g., job training, job search assistance, housing, anger management training, and respite care). There is monthly reporting and interaction with all the members of the team. Qualitative outcomes we seek include strengthening parent-child attachment, at risk families and others marginalized by the system. The Parent Mentor Team is made up of clinical staff, case managers and Parent Mentor who provide individual and group treatment to parents, their children and other family members. Services are provided in the family's home as well as in community settings.

The Basics of Adoption

Step 1: Getting Started

You have made the decision to adopt. You will need to contact an agency licensed in your state about completing your adoption home study, and ask questions. Choosing the right agency will make a difference in your adoption journey. We are also happy to help you any way we can, as children are waiting for their “Forever Families”. Please use the Registration Form to make yourself known to us and sign up to receive our weekly mailings. A Family for Every Child serves children and families nationally.

Step 2: Initial Orientation

This is an orientation meeting where you will be given a basic understanding of:
  • The Adoption Program, policies and procedures of the Adoption Agency
  • Who are the children; the needs and characteristics of children available for adoption through state foster care systems.
  • Overview of attachment, separation, grief and loss, abuse, neglect or traumas that children have experienced
  • The role and responsibility of adoptive parents
  • The importance of cultural and ethnic identity to the child
  • The importance of birth parents
  • The process of what you will need to go through and the next steps on your journey
  • Background checks
  • Parent Packet Application Process
  • Overview of Home Study/Assessment
  • The length of the process with approximate timelines
  • Rights and responsibilities of the adoptive family and the Adoption Agency
  • Overview of family selection /matching process

Step 3: Adoptive Parent Training

Each state requires training to become an adoptive parent, it varies by state.  The training sessions vary by area/location, 4 to 10 weeks, or weekend sessions.  You will want to check into what is available in your area.  Check out our training page The training sessions are designed to:
  • Prepare prospective parents to better understand a child who comes out of the foster care system.
  • Prepare you for adoption
  • Challenge you to grow and develop as a parent
  • Help you consider; what type of child can I successfully parent?  Am I able to parent a child who has been neglected and/or abused to some degree?

Step 4: Parent Application Process

This is where you will want to narrow down the agency that you will choose to go with to complete your Home Study Process.  You will want to make sure that you feel comfortable with the agency that you choose.  The steps for each agency may differ in training, timelines, and when items need to be completed and returned to proceed to the next step. The application will often include:
  • Reference letters
  • Fingerprint/criminal history background checks on each applicant
  • Financial documents
  • Medical Reports
  • Marriage and/ or Divorce Decree
  • Biography/life sketch
  • Child preferences
  • What brought you to adoption

Step 5: Home Study Process

A Home Study is a report that is required to determine the eligibility of adoptive parents.  A Home Study can only be used for one adoption (sibling groups are considered one if done at the same time). Home Studies are kept confidential and are only shared with professionals involved with the adoption. Fees for Home Studies vary from each agency. This is the time that you will meet your adoption worker, who will write your home study.   Click here to view the profiles of our Adoption Workers. She/he will meet with you in your home to talk about your personal history, family relationships, what brought you to the decision of adoption, and the supports/resources available to you.  They will determine if your home is safe and has sufficient space for adopted child/children.  This step will help you and the agency make the best possible decisions about whether placement of child/children will work out and to determine the characteristics of the children whom you will be most successful parenting. Once information is gathered and interviews have taken place with the adoption worker there may be a time of waiting; the home study /assessment will need to be written, during this step of your journey please try to be patient.  While you wait for the home study process to be completed we recommend that families do some reading, research and connect with other adoptive parents or support groups to prepare for the next phases of the adoption process.

Step 6: Matching/Selection

During the matching/selection phase you and the agency you have chosen work together to find the child/children that will be the best match for our family. We have a Matching Assistance Program to help families in the matching/selection process, this is for families throughout the U.S. Learn more about our Matching Assistance Program… We pride ourselves on having a current and reliable web listing of children waiting for their adoptive family. The matching process can be very challenging and frustrating. Many families have a difficult time finding children to submit on as well as being considered and notified by the caseworkers. We encourage families to be patient and to not lose hope. Every state differs in how they make the selection of where to place children. In some states the caseworker of the child makes the decision, in other states it is decided by a committee of people. Understand who will be submitting our home study on children (you, your adoption worker, etc) and how often. In some cases you will be given a copy of your home study to submit on children, and some agencies prefer that they submit your home study. The term “submitting on a child” means to give the child’s social worker your paperwork, showing that you feel you are a good match. Some agencies will submit on a child/children out of state and other agencies will only submit on children in your state. Out-of-state adoption can be more work than in-state adoption. For details, see our Heart Gallery FAQ and tutorial on the ICPC.

Step 7: Placement

This is when you have been selected as the “Forever Family” for a child/children. 
  • Make sure you have the necessary information about the child/children
  • Make sure your resources are in place ahead of time
  • Talk with schools, counselors, therapist, physicians, dentist, child care, and support groups
Post placement reports are required until the adoption is finalized.  These reports may be done by both your adoption worker and/or another social worker.  The number of post placement visits/reports varies depending on the state requirements.  Are you ready to start? A child is waiting for their “Forever Family” you could be the one to make a difference.

Information Nights

A Family For Every Child Adoption Agency holds an Adoption Information Session for families interested in starting the home study process at various locations throughout Oregon. By registering for an upcoming meeting in your area you will receive a copy of our Parent Packet to review, a confirmed seat in the session, and a reminder phone call before the meeting. To register for one of the in person information nights, please email with the date you would like to attend and the number of people attending. Space is limited, so be sure to register now. 
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Information Nights (Eugene Office)

Are you interested in taking your first step towards adoption?! Please join us for our adoption information night! This is where you can learn about the general process of adoption and get all of your questions answered! There are a couple options every month!
Come into our Eugene Office for an friendly in-person Information meeting! Please RSVP for more information!
Information Nights are 2nd Thursday of each month at 6:00pm to 7:30 pm – this is in our Office

Upcoming Dates RSVP
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Information Nights (Webinar)

Join us online in the comfort of your own home for our webinar information night! Please RSVP to or call 541-343-2856 to get the link to register!
Information Night Webinars are the 3rd Thursday of each month at 6:00pm to 7:30 pm
Please check out our calendar for more exact dates!

Upcoming Dates RSVP

Template – Orientation Information

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Information Nights (Eugene Office)

Are you interested in taking your first step towards adoption?! Please join us for our adoption information night! This is where you can learn about the general process of adoption and get all of your questions answered! There are a couple options every month!
Come into our Eugene Office for an friendly in-person Information meeting! Please RSVP for more information!
Information Nights are 2nd Thursday of each month at 6:00pm to 7:30 pm – this is in our Office

Upcoming Dates RSVP
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Information Nights (Webinar)

Join us online in the comfort of your own home for our webinar information night! Please RSVP to or call 541-343-2856 to get the link to register!
Information Night Webinars are the 3rd Thursday of each month at 6:00pm to 7:30 pm
Please check out our calendar for more exact dates!

Upcoming Dates RSVP

00 – Family Finding FAQ

Why would you look for family members when the child was removed from the home?

Children are removed from their home when it is determined that their situations or surroundings are unsafe, and would benefit living elsewhere. This does not mean that their entire family is unsafe, nor that they should be separated from immediate or extended family indefinitely. Family members are often more willing to provide a permanent home and adopt a child relative, as well as keep the child connected with safe people who love them.

Who do you look for?

Everyone! During the Family Finding process volunteers search for relatives, friends, past foster parents, former caseworkers and more. Even if someone is unable to provide a home or be a stable resource for a child, they may know someone who can, and may be able to provide such information.

What if no one is able to adopt the child?

Even if no relative or kith connection identified is able to provide a home for the child, they can likely provide other resources. Individuals may be able to visit with the child, maintain phone contact, become a respite care provider, and more. Studies show that children who maintain contact with safe, loving family members have a greater chance at success. To find a permanent home for a child if a relative is unable to adopt, Extensive Team Recruitment methods are utilized.

What happens after you contact family members?

After family members and others are contacted by the Family Finding Volunteer, the volunteer, Permanency Director, child's caseworker, and DHS Family Finding Coordinator have a meeting to discuss what connections have been contacted and what those conversations have entailed. At that meeting (called the Family Meeting Staffing), a date is set for a Family Meeting, and it is determined what connections will be invited to a Family Meeting.

A Family Meeting is a meeting between the AFFEC volunteer, the Permanency Director, the child's case staff, the DHS Family Finding Coordinator, and the child's family members and kith connections. This meeting focuses on the child's needs, and how those at the table can meet those needs.

After a Family Meeting occurs, AFFEC representatives follow up with family members, connections, and case staff, for a minimum of one year to ensure that the youth establishes emotional and legal permanency.

What is a "kin" connection?

"Kin" refers to family members and relatives of a youth. This includes grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, in-laws, step relatives, siblings, and the parents. We look for kin connections so that the child can be cared for by family members and reconnect with loved ones. Kin connections can provide support, a home, and be a resource for family reunification. Studies show that children have a better chance at success when living with family members.

What is a "kith" connection?

"Kith" refers to close neighbors, friends, teachers, coaches, mentors, and other connected individuals who may be close to a child. We look for such connections because people connected in this way can support the child and the family, and often love the youth. Kith connections can be some of the strongest connections for family and children, and can often assist in finding more family members, visiting with the child, provide a home, and more.

Donate Your Car

Donate for Charity creates and manages donation programs that enable donors to make a significant contribution to their favorite nonprofit through an easy process, guided by experts in the auto donation industry.

Why donate your vehicle?

Your car donation directly benefits A Family For Every Child. Donate For Charity distributes the funds raised from the sale of your vehicle donation directly to AFFEC to help maintain and expand our efforts and programs.

The IRS allows vehicle donors to receive a tax deduction on their vehicles. Donate for Charity is also a convenient way to get rid of unwanted vehicles while helping a great cause.

How to Donate

  1. Complete the form on Donate for Charity's Website or call 866-392-4483 to start the donation process.
  2. Your vehicle will be picked up within 3 days. After the vehicle is auctioned off or purchased by a salvage company for parts, you will receive your receipt necessary for a tax deduction.
  3. A Family For Every Child will then receive the funds from your car donation!

About Us

A Family For Every Child (AFFEC) is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization dedicated to finding permanent and loving adoptive families for waiting foster children. To accomplish our mission, we focus on finding loving and permanent families for children who the Oregon foster care system considers “hard to place.” The children who fall into this category are usually older, ethnically diverse, part of a sibling group, or have severe physical, emotional and/or developmental challenges. AFFEC began as the vision of its founder and Executive Director, Christy Obie-Barrett. Christy drew upon her own firsthand experiences as a tireless child advocate and mother of nine adoptive, and three biological children. Christy, along with dozens of dedicated volunteers, formed AFFEC in October 2006. The organization has grown into one which is focused, not only on locating permanent and loving adoptive families for Oregon's waiting foster children, but on identifying and reconnecting lost family members with older foster children who might otherwise end up homeless and have little hope for a bright future.

Services We Provide

AFFEC's services include mentoring, advocate services, family building services (including our Adoption Agency), a host home program for homeless youth, and overall support to the child, extended family members, social worker, and potential adoptive families. We strive to build bridges and create partnerships with other organizations and nonprofits, both locally and nationwide. AFFEC’s Adoption Agency has grown drastically, with a recent expansion of services to Washington. Over the last 5 years we have developed 10 plus programs that assist special-needs/challenging-to-place foster children in finding their own Forever Families. Our success is achieved through the efforts of 900 volunteers, twelve full-time and thirteen part-time staff, some of whom are contractors, and the collaboration of many partners. It is our goal that no family encounters undue roadblocks that prevent adopting a child from foster care.

Our History

Learn how we have grown from one employee in 2006, to helping 300+ foster children find forever families.

Our Mission

We connect hard-to-place foster children with permanent and loving homes.

Our Location

Come by our office in Eugene, Oregon.

Our News

Keep up with all of our programs and upcoming events.

Our Employees

Meet the employees who make A Family For Every Child possible.

Our Board of Directors

Meet the board members who are dedicated to bettering the lives of foster children.


Multnomah County Resources

Support Groups

Talk It Over hosted by Swindells Family Resource Center and sponsored by Trillium Family Services:

A support group for families with a child or teen with mental illness, substance abuse, or serious behavior problems. Group is for family members only, including siblings. Snacks are provided. There are two locations to choose from:

  • Portland: Meets the 2nd and 4th Sunday of each month from 4pm-6pm at Providence Child Center, Providence Hospital Campus 830 NE 47th Ave. in Portland.
  • Gresham: Meets the 2nd and 4th Tuesday of each month from 6pm-7:30pm at Human Solutions 124 NE 181st Street in Portland.
The contact for both of these groups is Margaret Puckette at 503-289-7797

LGBTQ Adoptive Parent Support Group hosted by Adoption Mosaic:

Meets every 3rd Thursday from 6pm-8pm at Q Center 4115 N. Mississippi Ave. in Portland. Groups will be lead by a team of adoption professionals and members of the LGBTQ adoption community.

Adoption Support Group hosted by DHS

Meets the 3rd Monday of each month from 6pm-8pm at DHS Midtown Branch, Lobby Conference Room 1425 NE Irving Street in Portland.

Oregon Post Adoption Resource Center

Select your county and it will display support groups near you.

African-American Families through Adoption Support Group

Meets in the greater Portland area for potlucks and fun. Can help you connect with mentors for African-American children. Contact Pam or Rob Vergun at 503-645-6642 or for more information.

Families For Children from China

  • Contact: Cathy Rowland
  • Location: P.O. Box 5642 Portland, OR 97208
  • Phone Number: 503-295-6322

ADHD Parent Support Group hosted by Stumptown CHADD

Meets the 2nd Thursday of each month at 6:30pm at Providence St. Vincent Hospital 9205 SW Barnes Rd., Room 6 in Portland. This support group is open parents and caregivers of children affected by ADHD. The group is there to share the joys and challenges in raising children with ADHD.

Northwest Adoptive Families Association and North American Council on Adoptable Children Representative

  • Contact: Kathie Stocker
  • Location: 5737 SW Pendleton Portland, OR 97122
  • Phone Number: 503-243-1356

Adoptive Families’ Support Group

Adoptive/Foster Support Group

  • Contact: Kathy Roland
  • Location: IHOP-Corner of Stark & 242nd Avenue Portland, OR
  • Phone Number: 503-666-9369

Department of Human Services

  • Contact: Peggy Gilmer
  • Location: Clackamas DHS Office Clackamas, OR
  • Phone Number: 503-657-2112

Padres Unidoes

  • Contact: DHS Judy Orellana
  • Location: 1425 NE Irving, Building 400 Portland, OR

African-American Support Group

  • Contact: Jeanett Davis
  • Location: Portland, OR Clackamas, OR
  • Phone Number: 281-652-1402

Department of Human Services

  • Contact: Peggy Gilmer
  • Location: Clackamas DHS Office Clackamas, OR
  • Phone Number: 503-657-2112
  • World Wide Web: FCC Oregon and SW Washington

Professional Help

Board of Licensed Professionals

Adoption Therapists in Multnomah County

Dr. Vince Berger

Donate Albums

While the donations of scrapbooking supplies has been enormous and we can never say “Thank you” enough. We are in desperate need of albums for all the great supplies and pages donated to the Heart Gallery to be placed in and given to a Foster Child.

DHS has requested pages in 8 1/2 x 11 format, we need albums specifically to accommodate this size of finished pages.

Do you have any unused albums of this size you no longer want or need, consider making a donation for this project! Albums can be directly donated to the Heart Gallery.

You may want to consider making a cash donation to help us purchase the supplies we need at this time. For only $25 we will be able to purchase an 8 1/2 x 11 album, page protectors and adhesive to complete a LifeBook and present it to a Child.

For more information contact:

  • Christy Obie-Barrett
  • Executive Director
  • 541-343-2856
  • Fax 541-343-2866
  • Gail Van Gundy 
  • LifeBook Co-Coordinator
  • 541-525-3500(call or text)