The 7 Best Books for Parents Considering Adoption

The 7 Best Books for Parents Considering Adoption

By Aurora
The best way to make the adoption process go smoothly is to do your homework! Read everything you can and seek out answers to all of your burning questions.  To get you started, here are some recommended books for parents considering adoption: 1. 20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew In 20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew, an adoptee offers insight into the unique emotional challenges adopted children face by sharing case studies.  2. Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special-Needs Kids – A Guide for Parents and Professionals Through this book, you can learn from other parents who have helped their adopted children heal from emotional trauma. 3. Confessions of an Adoptive Parent: Hope and Help from the Trenches of Foster Care and Adoption  Mike Berry has fostered and adopted children of his own and offers his insider’s perspective in this faith-based

Adoption Advocate Influencers You Should Be Following on Instagram

By Aurora
Instagram can be a wonderful place to find an adoption community and individuals whose stories resonate with you. It’s easy to get lost while scrolling through the endless stream of cute baby photos, but your scrolling doesn’t have to be mindless- it can help you find the advice and support you need from parents who have been in your shoes! Here are the adoption advocates who keep it real and warm our hearts on the ‘gram: @theluckyfewofficial Follow Heather (mom to Macey, Truly, and August) as she advocates for adoption and shares the joys and struggles of parenting children with Down Syndrome. Heather knows firsthand that parenthood isn’t all giggles and playtime- her Instagram is a relatable mix of tantrums and her kids’ hilarious shenanigans.   @fromanothamotha Adoption coordinator and birth mother Kelsey, who is a part of an open adoption, stands up for those who are often forgotten in

My Success Story – by Claire Stamley

By Aurora
“My name is Claire Stamey. I live in N.C, and I got pregnant by one of my best friends in 2007 at the age of 38.  I am white and he is black.  This was my 3rd baby.  The birth father and I decided to look for biracial couples to adopt her.  We ended up finding what turned out to be the perfect couple, Chris and Ruth Traylor in California.  The adoptive Dad and I have similar interests and talents.  We all decided on an open adoption Zoe was born 3 weeks or so premature.  She is nothing short of a miracle.  Chris and Ruth often sent me pics, and we all kept in touch on Facebook and the phone. Sadly, Ruth passed away-in December,2016 from complications of Lupus.  Chris is now a single Dad raising Zoe himself and doing a wonderful job.  Chris and Zoe keep in touch with

Why I Volunteer for AFFEC

By Aurora
This week, my internship as the blog coordinator for AFFEC will come to a close.  Although I only just discovered AFFEC a few weeks before my internship began,  the past twelve weeks have been several years in the making. When I was around six years old, a neighborhood boy of about eight or nine began visiting every day after school. He was my sister’s age and frankly, I remember being more annoyed by his constant presence than anything. He was always eager to join in whatever game my best friend from across the street and I were playing. He would come over for snacks, help with homework, swimming, and Jamba Juice outings. I never quite knew why he was always around; it wasn’t as if my sister was best friends with him.  For some reason,  trips to Jamba Juice are what stand out the most. Overall, my memories of him

Because Every Child Should Have A Best Friend

By Aurora
At A Family For Every Child we believe that every child deserves a family.  We believe that every child should have the chance to live their best life. Check out this video about what drives all of us at AFFEC.  In our 12 years as an organization, AFFEC has placed over 6,000 children into forever families.  We will be here until every child is loved, until every child has a best friend, until every child has a family.  Together with you, we can make a change! Thank you so much to Tim Garner who made this incredible video! We could not do it without our amazing community and supporters.  You can help in so many different ways, and from anywhere.  Whether it is volunteering or donating, you can make a difference in the lives of these amazing children. Will you join us in our mission to find

Their Stories: Two Adoptees Reflect on How Adoption Changed Their Lives

By Aurora
We asked adults who were adopted as children from foster care the question, “How has being adopted changed your life for the better?” Here is what two incredible individuals had to say: Ashli Carnicelli “I was adopted from the foster care system in the state of Massachusetts. I was placed with my parents in November of 1983 and my adoption was finalized on October 18, 1984 when I was almost 2 years old. To say that being adopted has changed my life for the better is an understatement. My parents were only 2 weeks into their classes and their dossier and they were on the list for an older child (up to 6 years old). My social worker wanted to find the perfect home for me, and she pulled their file. She said, “Sometimes you have to throw away the paperwork and go with your gut- this baby was meant

From Fostering to Adopting: Mallory Williams’ Journey

By Aurora
Photo courtesy of Mallory Williams We had the wonderful opportunity to interview Mallory Williams, who runs the Instagram account @five_2_and_under, and is a mom to Chase and Dylan, who she fostered before adopting, and triplets Avery. Emery, and Bradley. AFFEC: What influenced your decision to become a foster parent?  MW: Since my husband and I got together we’ve always had the dream of adopting. As a drug & alcohol therapist in a correctional setting, I witnessed firsthand some of the hardships that these children have to go through. We also thought it would be great to help the children in our immediate area, giving them the best life that they could have. AFFEC: What are some challenges/rewards of being a foster parent? MW: Some of the challenges we faced included the altering of our schedules on a whim, the unknown and the difficulties with the court

Advice from Adoptive Parents: What They Wish They Knew Before Adopting

By Aurora
You can read every book on adoption out there, but when it comes to your actual adoption, you may be blindsided by some things that no book or Internet article could have prepared you for. We asked some adoptive parents what they wish they had known before adopting and asked them to mention any advice they would give to families looking to adopt. Betty and Melinda Potts-Cerio adopted two sisters they had fostered through Community Based Care of Central Florida. They said,”Our best advice is to learn everything you can! Most importantly, educate yourself about the effects of trauma on kids.  Seek out and know your resources then use them!  Self-care is so important as well. Take care of yourselves so you can take care of your kids.  These kids are counting on you, go make a difference!” Annette Marie Griffin, whose debut children’s book What Is A Family will be released next year,

7 Best Blogs By Real Adoptive Parents

By Aurora
  If you don’t personally know anyone who has adopted children, the process can be daunting and lonely. Fortunately, the Internet exists to let you know you’re not alone no matter what you are going through. Many adoptive parents have started blogs to share their adoption experiences and the joys of parenthood. Reading these blogs can help make you feel like you have a friend on speed dial ready to give you advice and guidance whenever you need it.  Here are a few of our favorite adoption blogs: 1. The Lucky Few Mother of three Heather Avis chronicles her journey as a parent to Macyn, Truly, and August, all of whom she and her husband adopted. Macyn and August have Down Syndrome, so this blog is especially relevant to those who are looking to adopt special needs children. Heather is a fierce activist for Down Syndrome and has been featured on

8 Misconceptions About Adoption That May Be Keeping You From Taking the Leap

By Aurora
Before you actually begin the process of adopting a child, there may be a lot you don’t know. Your only knowledge of adoption may come from media coverage of celebrity adoptions or memoirs written by adoptive parents. Many people have preconceived assumptions about adoption because of the way adoption is portrayed in pop culture.  These (often negative) assumptions might make you fret over whether or not adoption is really right for you. But before you rule out adoption because of misconceptions, get the facts by asking your agency as many questions as you can think of and doing your homework. To start, read on as we dispel some of the most common myths about adoption. 1. Only the wealthy can afford adoption. While adoptions range in costs and not everyone will have the money upfront, it isn’t always expensive. There are also many resources available to help ensure that adoption