The Matching Assistance Program is discontinued effective August 7, 2023. The MAP website will no longer be available for login starting September 1, 2023.


We would like to thank all the people and businesses that keep the Heart Gallery going with your generous donations, contributions, volunteering and advocating for these special children. We strive to include all who have helped us succeed. If we have missed you or have not included you on our list, we apologize and hope you bring this to our attention. Thank you!

Partnering for success

A Family for Every Child’s mentoring program is essential to helping foster youth make school and life transitions at critical stages in their development. OCF strongly supports enhancing this important program, ensuring positive, successful mentoring experiences for an estimated 60 middle and high school students throughout Lane County. -Kathleen Cornett, Vice President of Grants & Programs, Oregon Community Foundation

A Family For Every Child’s (AFFEC) mentor program is expanding its reach by connecting with children’s schools in order to help them perform better academically and remain on track to graduate. With support from the Oregon Community Foundation AFFEC has brought on a new team member who is charged with conducting school-based community outreach, connecting with children’s school counselors, and supporting our mentors in their mentee’s academic life. This will allow AFFEC to help children and teens see greater academic success, and feel more supported by caring adults in their lives. Currently a little more than half of foster youth obtain a high school diploma due to difficulties when transitioning from home to home, and mentors have the potential to ease those transitions with schools and other institutions. Thanks to the Oregon Community Foundation, AFFEC will now be supporting mentors and youth to help ensure children not only receive their diploma but exceed academic expectations. Our new Education Liaison is Mary Bromley, Mary has been an AFFEC mentor for over five years. She is the only consistent person in the life of her mentee. Mary also recently retired from the school district and will begin working with us on our Education/Mentor/Mentee Program as an Education Liaison.

In addition to providing more academic support, AFFEC is launching a Mentor Assisted Life Skills Program which will pair mentors with youth who will work on developing life skills together. Mentors and mentees will be offered a curriculum that includes information on how to handle one’s finances, healthcare, cooking, and more. This program will better prepare children who are at risk of “aging out” of foster care for living on their own. These classes in conjunction with the mentors’ support will aid in the success of each child becoming a self-sufficient adult! Our new Life skills effort is lead by our new team Member,Christina Sutton

Christina comes with a long history of connection to AFFEC. In the very early days she ran our Mentor Program, and then she took a break to foster and adopt many children. While she still has a house full, she is getting involved again to help us build our education classes for youth at risk of aging out of care and those who will become adults with little preparation for the real world. She will plan and teach bi-weekly classes on everything from “How to write a check” to “How to shop for food” to college, trade-school knowledge, and resume-building. Christina grew up in foster care and never got a family of her own, so her passion for at-risk youth is huge and based in real-life experience. If you would like to get involved in this effort, we need you – contact or call 541-343-2856.

Donations Have Been Made On Behalf Of:

Andrew Deffenbacher from B2 Wine Bar and Grill
Ed from Fisherman’s Market
Kurt Catlin from Kalapuya High School
Ladonna Webb
Laura Beane
Ryan Tesdale
Wendy Nastiuk
Rania Karam
Cindy Herzog
Amber Thompson
Thomas Savinar
Juliana Santos
Ramon Guirnalda
Jeri Gedrose
Peggy Babics
Donna Baillie
Steve Brown
Evans Fund
Marnie Gleason
Don DeZarn
Randy Cummings of Courtsports Athletic Club
Kris Coburn from Arnold Gallagher P.C. Attorneys at Law
Karen L. Obie from Obie Family Foundation
Kelly Myers from West Side Iron Inc.
OCF Joseph E. Weston Public FoundaKathleen George of Spirit Mountain Community Fund
Brian Schafer from TeBri Vineyards
Benton Lane WinerytionJoe Hawes from Hawes Financial Group

Diane Hoffman from Folkroots Herbal Care, LLC
Colette Kemper from Midnight Oil Farms
Oregon Caberet Theatre
Dana Tessler from Rainbow Valley Design and Construction
I Run With Scissors Salon
Oregon Coast Aquarium
The Nail Nook
Oakshire Brewing
Cindy Rust from OLCC
Five Pine Lodge & Spa
Saint Martins Episcopal School
Denice Fisher
The Mord Family
Heidi Reese
The Reese-Baenen Family
Jacob Reese and Marley
Ryan and Theresa Reese
Jianna Rice
In Memory of Nicholas Warner
In Honor of Whitney Christine
In Honor of Michael Dunn
YAC St. Mary’s Episcopal Church
Susan Ottmer
Sarah Allen from the Oregon Community Credit Union
Charles “Chuck” Kirkpatrick

Shelley Kurtz
The Staff and Management at KVAL TV
Don Leber
Jessica Byrne
Lane County Kids

Bi-Mart Stores
McKenzie Broadcasting
Bill Barrett
Tm Fox & Tracy Berry
KEZI Kidsports Kids Directory

Our Very Generous Business Advocates
Arbor South Architecture Build a Bear Workshop (Inside the Valley River Mall) Creswell Chamber of Commerce Creswell Library Dr. Dave Matthews DMD Friendly Street Market Gateway Mall Iron Works Gym (Creswell) Nifty Fifties & Sixties OMT Mortgage-Keller Williams Realty Precision Classics and Collision Ray’s Food Center (Creswell) Siuslaw Valley Bank SOFCU Credit Union (Creswell) Summit Bank Valley River Center

Faith Based Partners Bethesda Lutheran Church Calvary Fellowship Eugene Faith Center Faith Center First Babtist of Eugene Friendly Street Church of God Grace Community Fellowship Norkenzie Christian Church Northwood Christian Church New Life Assembly of God Temple Beth Israel Willamette Christian Center

Community Partners
20/30 Club Assistance League CASA Committed Partners for Youth Hairbadoo Junior League

Media & Technology

Thank you to Adept Computer Services/K9 Bytes and Shannon Barnard AIC-Advanced Investment Corp – Ann Olson Bill Barrett Bi-Mart Stores Don Leber Erin Bunde Greg Raschio Jessica Byrne Keri Stewart Kids Directory Kidsports Lisa Raffin Martin Hall and Neil Moyer McKenzie Broadcasting, KKNU Poppie Advertising Shelley Kurtz, KVAL Tim Fox Tracy Berry The Staff and Management at KEZI The Staff and Management at KVAL

18th Avenue Print
5th St. Market
A Matter of Time
A New you Salon and Spa
Abby’s Pizza
Advance Cabinets
Aileen Walker
Albertson’s – River Road
Amanda Fitzgerald
Amber Quick-McKee w/ Aesthetic Plastic Surgery
Andrea Kingsley Rippee
Annesha Montez Photography
Applebees West 11th Avenue
Arbonne Skin Care
Arbor South Architecture
Assistance League of Eugene
Associated Business Systems
Aunt MiMi’s Specialty Cakes
B2 Wine Bar
Bari Lipp Foundation
Bates Steak House
Beards Framing
Ben Franklin Crafts
Beppi and Gianni’s Trattoria
Best Buy and Staff
Best Western New Oreg Motel
Bi- Mart
Bicoastal Media
Bill and Shelly Walter
Bill Hastings
Bob and Teresa Sherman
Bill Healy Foundation

Bookmine (Cottage Grove)
Boulevard Grill
Brewed Awakening
Brian Cole
Build a Bear
Caf 440
Caprice Day Spa
Caribbean Tan
Carrie Robinson
Cascadia Editing in Philomath, Oregon
Celebrations Sugar Fantasy
Central Print and Reprographic Services
Century Bank
Chambers Communications
Chambers Family Foundation
Chateau Nonchalant
Chris Walton and Beth Sheehan
Christian Family Adoptions
Christina Sutton
Scott Morison
City Nails
Collins Foundation

Cottage Grove Community Center
Cottage Grove Hospital
Cravings Catering
Creswell Kiawanis
Creswell Library 64 West Oregon Ave. Creswell
Crossroads Espresso
Crux Gym
Dandelions Flowers and Gifts
David Minor Theater
Department of Interior
Diamond Woods Golf Course
Dr. Dave Matthews DMD
Duck Race
Elephant?s Trunk
Embassy Suites, Portland
Emerald Lanes Bowling
Enchanted Forest
Eric Herman
Eugene Airport
Eugene Ballet
Eugene Catering Cornucopia
Eugene Concert Choir
Eugene Marathon Health and Fitness Expo.
Eugene Public Library
Eugene Swim and Tennis Club
Eugene Toy and Hobby
Express Press Printing and Graphic
Fast Track Car Wash
Fenario Gallery
Fiddler’s Green
Flavors Catering
Framin’ Artworks
Fred Meyer
Fred Meyer – River Road
Friendly Street Market
Gateway Mall
Gina Jensen and Chris Nettleton
Gina Jenson
Grand Slam USA
Gray’s Garden/Reed & Cross
Great Clips, Springfield
Hair Ba Doob Ba!
Hair by Kristi Stutesman
Harry Ritchie Jewelers
Haugen Advertising and Graphics
Hilton Garden Inn
Hole in the Wall BBQ
Holiday Inn Express, Eugene
Hollywood Video (Willamette St.)
Holzman Foundation

Hotel Vintage Plaza
Imagine It Framed 29 South 6th St. in Cottage Grove
Iron Works Gym
James Horniman
Jeff Wilson
Jerry’s Home Improvement Stores
Jim Chatfield
Judi Schons
Judith Teal
Kaylin Jensen
Kernutt Stokes Brandt & CO.
KEZI Television
Kim Adams
Kim Rambo
Kingsley Family Fund-SF
Koala Construction
Kowloon Restaurant
Kyle and Kate Hudson
Labor Ready
Lakeside Clinic in Dexter
Lamar Advertising
Lane Community Culinary
Lane County Public Service Building
LANZ Cabinets
Les Schwab
Levi Strauss
Life Technologies
Lisa Weinstein
Lizzy’s House of Cakes
Margo and Herb McKillop
Market of Choice
Maureen Smith
McDonald Framers
McDonald Wholesale
McDonalds Rest.
McKenzie River Broadcasting
McKenzie River Golf Course
Meyer Memorial Trust
An anonymous gift in honor of Louise Murphy
Mill Casino, Hotel and RV Park
Mo’s Restaurant
Mujeres Salon and Spa
My Party Bus
Naya’s Taqueria
Nifty Fifty & Sixties
Nigel and Michelle Chapman
Northside Liquor
Oakway Catering
Oakway Center
Oakway Golf Course
Ocean Dunes Golf Course
Obie Family Foundation

OES Catering
Of Grape and Grain
OMT Mortgage / Keller Williams
Oregon art supplies
Oregon Coast Sea Lion Caves
Oregon Gallery
Oregon Rod, Reel and Tackle
Osteria Sfizio
Pacific Office Automation
Pam Singh
Papa’s Pizza
Peace Health Cottage Grove Hospital & Clinic
PF Chang’s
PGE Foundation

Phil and Sharon Means
Pietra’s Artisian Bakery
Precision Classics and Collision
Premiere Homes
Putters/Strike City/Lasertrek
Pyreneese Vineyards
Radisson Hotel, Portland
Rays Food Center (Creswell)
Reflections Salon
Rett Baumann
Richard & Alisa Caesar
Rossetti Mardeting & Michelle Winetrout
Rotary Club
Ruhoff Homebuilders
RW Family Fund
Santa Clara Animal Hospital
Sara J. McRae, LMT
Sassy Cupcake
Saturday Market
Science Factory Chdrn Museum
Scott and Kathy Kitchell
SE Insurance Specialists
Search Engine Consulting by SEO Does Matter
Seattle Seahawks
Secret Garden B&B
Seven Feathers Hotel & Casino
Shari’s – Springfield
Shari’s – West 11th
Shelley Hill
Sign Pro
Siuslaw Bank
Siuslaw Valley Bank
Sixth Street Grill
Skate World
SOFCU Credit Union 168 Melton Road Creswell
Speedi Sign
Spingfield Courthouse
Spirit Mountain Community Fund
Sports Authority
Springfield Arts Council
Springfield Police Department
Steve and Linda Bruns
Strike City & Putters
Sue Loome
Summit Bank
Susie and Sandy Trahan
Suzanne Arlie
Sweet Life Patisserie
Ta-Da Productions
Territorial Vineyards
Terry Ellsworth
The Boulevard
The Bridge Bar and Grill
The Chocolate Factory
The Lesson Factory
The Shedd Institute
Three Mile Canyon Farms
Tiffany Sullivan
Tokatee Golf Club
Towers Marketing
Trader Joe’s
University of Oregon Bookstore
US Bank Branches
Utopia Salon
Valley River Center
Very Little Theater
Vista Framing and Gallery
Wells Fargo Bank PCS
Wild Duck Caf
Wildhorse Resort and Casino
Windermere Realty (Oak St. office)
Woodard Family Foundation
Young’s Market Company of OR

Thank You To All Our Generous Mentors

Youth Mentors
Andrea Rippee
Amanda Williams
Barbara Orsi
Brenda Korte
Carolyn Wehrman
Delores Mord
Gina Holtz
Larry Hilliard
Mary Bromley
Patricia Hilliard
Rick Stuber
Rosemary Miranda
Sasha Mord
Shannon Gibson
Sharon Gelisse
Sterling Dailey
Tom Overly
Wayne DeWilde

Family Building Mentors
Bob and Tami Clayton
Carrie Baker
Christina Sterling
Cindy Gilbert
Cynthia Scanlon
Deb Walters
Elizabeth Ray
Marlene Drescher
Nicole Witt
Stacy Runnells

Ways to Help

Thank you for your interest in supporting A Family for Every Child's 15th Annual Princess for a Day event. Through the continued support and generosity of our community members, we are able to continue bringing this amazing event to foster and non-foster children alike.  


Each year we are in need of donations of the following items:

Princess-style Dresses
Holiday Dresses
Prom/Homecoming Dresses
Dress Shoes
Dressy Slippers
"Dress-Up" shoes
Dress Wraps & Shrugs
Feather Boas

Princess Stickers
Dressy Purses & Clutches
Costume Jewelry for Children & Adults
Nail Polish
Cosmetic utensils
Lip Gloss
Glitter Dust

Curling Irons
Floor length mirrors
Brushes & Combs
Regular Hair Spray
Glitter Hair Spray
Dry Shampoo
Baby Wipes

Our princesses run from ages 1-18, so we need items of all sizes.

Our largest need right now is dresses in child sizes 3T - 8, and shoes in child sizes 10 - 3Y. You can bring or send your donations to our office anytime Monday through Friday from 9:00 am - 5 pm.  Our office is located at 1675 West 11th Avenue, Eugene, OR 97402

Wish Lists

Want a fun, tangible way of giving back to the event? Shop our Amazon wishlist to hand-select items  you know will have an impact. Our Amazon wishlist allows us to offer goodie bags, accessories, photos, and more at our events. Click the link below to browse our Wishlist and truly be a fairy godmother to the event.

And throughout the year...

Please keep us in mind throughout the year when you are recycling your children's costumes and dress-up apparel, holiday or special occasion dresses, as well as other princess-themed items.  We collect donations all year long with the hope of growing our event to serve more foster children each year.
Our Princess for a Day event has been so incredibly supported by our community and has grown at an amazing pace.  It is our goal to be able to share this event with other organizations nationwide so that they can create their own Princess for a Day event to serve the foster children in their communities.

Host Home Overview

Why we need you!

Our Host Home program is an innovative and scalable effort that could move the needle for homeless students. It will save money and lives, but it will take a team.

Reasons you should be involved!

  • Youth who are “new” to our streets are more likely to become chronically homeless if we do not intervene within 15 nights.
  • 68.4% of homeless students scored below standards. 82.3% of homeless students scored below standard in math and 60.4% of homeless students scored below standard in science.
  • Youth that have experienced homelessness are 50% more likely not to receive a high school diploma. It is our goal to develop this program to interrupt this cycle and produce education and personal successes for 50 of these homeless youth.
  • In 2019-20 , we had 1,063 Bethel-Eugene 4J youth experiencing homelessness and 272 of them identified as unaccompanied minors.
  • For every $1 spent on youth interventions that address homelessness, the community saves $4.12 according to a New Avenues for Youth study (Portland, Oregon 2010).
  • Oregon estimates that more than 21,000 students in the state experienced homelessness in the 2019-20 school year.
  • National studies indicate that most of these youth run away due to family conflict or abuse, while others are kicked out of their home and forced to fend for themselves.
  • We had hoped for better results. The 2019-20 numbers indicate the percentage of unhoused students in the 4J and Bethel school districts have remained unchanged from the previous year at 25.7%.
  • Last school year, 15th Night Rapid Access Network (RAN) advocates sent alerts on behalf of 162 unaccompanied students with a total of 292 services and resource requested. The most common requests were for basic needs like clothing and shoes, food and shelter. As of the end of the year, 30 local youth-serving organizations (“providers”) are responding to unaccompanied student needs via the 15th Night Rapid Access Network (RAN).

What is 15th Night?

One night on the street is too many. The 15th Night is a community-wide partnership that helps the current Eugene-Springfield students that are navigating homelessness and many are unaccompanied.  Bringing together existing community resources, the 15th Night focuses on the safety and well-being of our vulnerable Eugene-Springfield youth who do not have a parent or guardian to support them. These resource teams include at least one representative from the University of Oregon, Bethel School District, Lane County Health and Human Services, the Eugene Police Department, City Councilor Ward 8, Eugene City Manager, Lane ESD, Eugene 4J School District, as well as over 30 area nonprofits.

Our latest effort is to work with individual high schools and their feeder middle schools on creating their own internal response team for homeless youth within their school. This is known as the School Mobilization Model.  Our Host Home program is, at its core, working to engage the school’s parent and teacher community, as well as local neighborhood groups and business, to wrap services and support all around these youth.  We believe this is a program/effort that is effective, innovative, and could be reproduced in any community.

Working Together To Protect Our Youth!

Here in Eugene/Springfield, homelessness is a wide-spread issue that many organizations have been grappling with for years.  Many people turn to the Eugene Mission, or other shelters in our community, to seek temporary housing, especially during the cold winter months. However, if you are an unaccompanied youth and you are experiencing homelessness, you do not have access to adult shelters. This leaves youth with 12 (7 during COVID restrictions) beds at the one shelter we have for under 18 and 13 beds at another for youth indentifyling as female. Youth under the age of 18 are also unable to access many food distribution resources and resource centers due to their status as a minor. 

AFFEC's Host Home Program is licensed through the state of Oregon.  As one of the few licensed Host Home programs in the state, we are able to assist youth ages 0-15 years old. Youth 16+ and home providers are not required to go through the licensed program.  We take pride in successfully completing the licensing process  and are also very committed to assisting other blooming Host Home programs throughout the state.

The RAN technology was updated over the summer based on feedback from our community advocates and network of 30+ service providers. RAN 2.0 was successfully launched in late September and enables school specific RANs to be connected to the larger Community RAN.

The 15th Night expanded into Springfield this fall. Springfield Public Schools and the Springfield Police Department can now access the 15th Night RAN on behalf of students experiencing homelessness. Catholic Community Services, First Place Family Shelter, Whitebird Dental, and the Eugene Mission have all joined the 30+ network of providers who responded in real time to alerts.

Sometimes the 15th Night Network is unable to meet a specific need of a student. This is where our Community Responder volunteers step into action. Over 50 people have volunteered to receive alerts from the 15th Night when there is a need that is hard to fill like special clothing, shoes, or gift cards for food.

Even students are stepping up for each other.  The Economic Justice League (EJL) for homeless and economically-challenged youth was created at South Eugene High School.  Along with 15th Night, we are working to execute the vision of keeping kids in school and supporting those struggling with housing.  One of South Eugene’s projects is opening a drop-in center for students to get help, support, and access to resources.  This includes food throughout the school day as well as free dinners-to-go, access to computers and technology, washer and dryer, free counseling, and much more. The goal is to have this room open before school, during lunch, and after school for any student that needs support. We hope to bring in therapists, artists, performers, hair stylists, barbers, and mentors of all kinds. We plan to have Fancy Dinner nights, Hair/Makeup/Makeover nights, Open Mic/Performance nights, arts and crafts, movie and game nights, and more.

15th Night Rapid Access Network Community Partners are working together to safeguard the 460+ Eugene-Springfield unhoused students who do not have a parent or guardian to support them, or a permanent place to call home. With thanks to their involvement, the 15th Night community movement can prevent Eugene-Springfield youth from going out on the street, and intervene quickly if they do.  This partnership includes many state / government resource and over 30 community nonprofits that all make a commitment to work together.

How Does AFFEC Fit Into the 15th Night Partnership?

A Family For Every Child provides three of their services to the youth serves by the 15th Night Network: Family Finding, Mentor and Host Home Programs. AFFEC has been providing both mentoring and family finding to the community for almost a decade and added the Host Home Porgram in 2018.

To learn more about...
Host homes and how to become one, click here

We are also looking for community members to join the movement and volunteer in a number of ways. If you are interested in volunteering in either capacity:

  • Select the appropriate boxes for either mentor, family finding volunteer, or host home.



It takes a kingdom to make Princess for a Day possible and we hope you will join this year's royal court in celebrating all the beautiful children of the land! This event is made possible with the continued support of our community and the help of a lot of volunteers. There are a wide variety of areas where you can volunteer; take a look at the list below and find something that piques your interest.  Our volunteer shifts average 4 hours unless you sign up for more. 

*All volunteers must be 18+ years of age, or be 16-18 and chaperoned by an adult. 


All Volunteer Areas

  • Registration
  • Hair Dressers
  • Makeup Artists
  • Nail Artists
  • Dress & Shoe Room
  • Decorations
  • Activity Leads
  • Photography
  • Set-up/Prep
  • Clean-up


If you have any questions about how to get involved with our Princess for a Day event, please contact our Events Team at or call us at (541) 343-2856

About Princess for a Day

Princess For a Day is a community event where kids of all ages and backgrounds are treated to a day of luxury as they transform into princes and princesses. Both foster and community kids alike receive a day of pampering and excitement, straight out of a fairytale. They begin their day in the Princess Salon, where they have their hair and makeup styled like royalty--including a crown or tiara! Next, the princesses move onto the Royal Boutique, where they pick out a complete princess outfit including a dress, shoes, and accessories (all to take home and keep)! After their makeover, the princesses head to a photo shoot with professional photographers, where they'll receive a personal printed copy of their photo. Then they walk the red carpet, escorted by their favorite fairytale characters! The princesses and princes are then announced by name into the royal ball and tea party, where they dance with their favorite characters and enjoy a buffet of locally-sourced treats.

Princess For a Day is free to foster youth, and open to community kids through ticketing. To register for 2023's Princess For a Day, please click here.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this event only for foster children? Not at all! While foster children attend the event for free, Princess For a Day is open to community children through ticketing. For more information on ticket prices and registering, please click here.

Is this event only for girls? A Family For Every Child firmly believes children of all genders, ages, and backgrounds can be princesses and princes. Attendees have their choice of princess dress and tiara or prince cape and crown.

Can I drop my kids off at the event and pick them up afterwards? No, children must be supervised at all times during the event. Each child is required to have an adult accompany them.

What time is the event? Can I show up at any time during the event? How long does it last? Princess For A Day lasts from 9AM to 5PM at Venue 252 in Eugene, OR. Upon registering, each attending Princess receives a timeslot for when they may enter the event. Once you check in at your timeslot, the event will take approximately an 1 to 1.5 hours to finish, depending on your child's pace.

Do we need to bring anything? Does my child need to come in a dress/costume? All princess supplies and costuming are provided by the event, and can be taken home at the end of the event. Kids are encouraged to wear shorts and a tank top under their street clothes, to easily slip their dress over.

Are walk-ins allowed? Walk-ins are accepted at Princess For a Day, however pre-registration is highly recommended to avoid long wait times and secure your spot. Tickets are available on a first-come, first-served basis, and we typically sell out early each year.

My child would love this event, but we can't afford it right now. Are there scholarships available? Thanks to the generosity of our sponsors and donors, we often have a limited number of scholarships we are able to give out. Please reach out to us directly to enquire about availability.

Where can I find photos from previous Princess For a Day events? All of our photos from past events are posted online. Click here to view 2022's Princess For a Day.








2023's Sponsors

About MAP

What Is The Matching Assistance Program?

Family Matching Made Easy

The Matching Assistance Program (MAP) is a free membership program that provides home study approved families, who are seeking to adopt from foster care, access to child listings. MAP works alongside you, your adoption worker, and children’s social workers during the matching phase of the adoption process, connecting waiting families with children in the foster care system who are available for adoption.

What is required to join MAP?

A family must have a current, no older than 2 years, home study that approves them to adopt from foster care. If your home study is over two years old, an updated study, or a letter of good standing from your agency will be required. We do accept foster-to-adopt-home studies. Additionally, you must be located in the United States, we are unable to assist with international adoption.

An open mind towards children who are:

  • Over the age of 7
  • Part of a sibling group
  • A member of a racial or ethnic minority
  • Who have some level of emotional, behavioral, developmental, physical, and/or medical needs.

What services does MAP provide families?

MAP provides families with a child search platform to identify potential matches based on the families child preferences.  MAP connects families with the child's social worker by allowing families to submit their home study. The families MAP profile accompanies every home study submission a family makes using their MAP account. During the registration process, families create a family profile which includes a brief family summary with pictures and information about their llives and what they can offer a child. This profle allows the family to show a child's social worker their personality and make a more personal connection than simply submitting a home study. 

And More!

Because adoption can be an arduous process, we offer a private online support group to any family with an active MAP account. MAP families can also participant in our recruitment tools such  as our Featured Family Newsletter, Child Matching events, our weekly newsletter that is emailed to hundreds of case workers across the country. They can also participate in our Child Matching events and our Family Matching events and may have access to additional support services.

Online Matching Events

Online Adoption Matching

Our Online Child Matching Events and Online Family Matching Events utilize user-friendly and accessible technology to better match children with their forever families. Social workers present children from their caseload to an audience of adoptive families via an online webinar program.

What Types of Programs Do We Use?

We use Microsoft Word PowerPoint to highlight the children, where we arrange the presentation in a very professional and useful way.

Does This Help with Adoption?

A Family For Every Child’s Online Child Matching Events are becoming increasingly popular, and are especially helpful for children in foster care that have a harder time finding a forever family.

How Does This Work?

Online Matching Events utilize easy, simple and accessible technology to portray foster children in a professional and aesthetically pleasing manner. We use several photos of the child to portray their everyday life, personality, and activities. The social worker presents a slideshow for every family that has an interest in the child.

Adoption Made Easy
Online Matching Events

Why these Events are Useful

Families are much more likely to become interested in a child after they’ve seen pictures and videos that represent the child’s personality, and after they’ve heard about the child’s behaviors directly from one of the people that know the child the best; their social worker. Families love these webinars, and feel that this is a great way to “hear about [the children’s] real personalities” and they appreciate being able to “hear directly from the social workers who know the children best” (Source from an August 22nd Online Child Matching Event attendee.)

Interested In Attending?

Online Matching Event Registration

Interested in Presenting?

(Clicking the link above; it will take you to an inquiry form that they fill out that will be e-mailed to AFFEC, alerting me that they are interested in presenting during an “Online Matching Event”. The MOU will also be on this page. The inquiry form will have first name, last name, agency, e-mail, how they heard about our matching events, what month they are interested in presenting, and if they’ve presented-tycfg-d in the past. Maybe what child they’d like to present as well but this one can be an option.)

Información en Español

Español AFFEC

A Family for Every Child (una familia para todos los niños) es una organización enfocada en encontrar hogares adoptivos permanentes y amorosos para niños de crianza temporal que están esperando. En los últimos 12 años, hemos desarrollado 10 programas que ayudan a los niños con necesidades especiales para encontrarles sus propias familias para siempre. Nuestros programas incluyen:

Spread Love

Heart Gallery (galería de corazones): The Heart Gallery es una herramienta utilizada para involucrar y educar la comunidad sobre las situación difíciles de los niños que viven en hogares de crianza temporal. Hacemos esto al mostrar imágenes profesionales y biografías de los niños esperando en lugares locales. Trabajamos con más de 50 negocios, lugares corporativos y religiosos

Español Friendly

El sitio de web: Usamos nuestro sitio web para trabajar con los Heart Galleries y con asistentes sociales para proporcionar y facilitar imágenes profesionales e información sobre niños en crianza temporal. También es una herramienta de reclutamiento independiente con opciones de listado públicas y privadas.

Adopt a Child

La Programa de asistencia complementaria (MAP): El programa está diseñado para ayudar a las familias adoptivas a hacer frente al proceso de adopción complicado y, a menudo, frustrante y complicado. El concepto es tener una persona en nuestro personal y un sitio web de inicio de sesión exclusivamente para estas familias

Estamos aquí para ayudarlo ya sea si apenas está buscando recursos, si está empezando el proceso de adoptar, si está esperando una colocación, o si está buscando recursos postadopción. Todavía estamos en el proceso de traducir el sitio de web. Para información, recursos, o consultas enviarnos un correo electrónico a

Assistance for Adoptive Families

There are many resources and supports available to assist families with their decision to adopt.

Adoption Subsidy

Some of the children who are adopted through Child Welfare are considered children with “special needs.” Special needs, as defined by the Department of Children and Families includes:

  • A child who has one or more special needs as a result of a mental, emotional or physical impairment, behavioral disorder, or medical condition that has been diagnosed by a licensed professional who is qualified to make the diagnosis
  • A child who is a member of a sibling group of 2 to be adopted together and one of the children is 8 years of age or older
  • A child is a member of a sibling group of 3 or more to be adopted together
  • A child is a member of an ethnic or cultural minority of whom reasonable, but unsuccessful efforts to place the child in an adoptive home were made and documented
  • The child’s birth and/or family history places the child at risk of having special needs but, due to the child’s age, a reliable diagnosis cannot be made.

Adoption subsidies are available to parents who adopt children who have physical or mental disabilities, or severe emotional problems. In addition to those children who qualify for subsidy through the Federal Title IV-E Adoption Assistance program, state subsidies are available to offset the additional costs of caring for a child with special needs. The subsidy programs are intended to remove financial barriers to the adoption of children with special needs, but they are not intended to cover the full cost of raising a child. The amount of the subsidy cannot be greater than the amount that child would have received had the child remained in a family-based foster care setting. The benefits available through the adoption subsidy programs are determined on an individual basis and may include monthly care and maintenance payments (a daily rate), health insurance coverage.

Adoption Tax Credit

In the summer of 2001, the Federal Adoption Tax Credit was updated. The most important update was to expand benefits to children with special needs adopted from the U.S. foster care system. Originally families adopting from the foster care system could claim the adoption tax credit, provided they had qualifying expenses. Unfortunately, the IRS list of qualifying expenses was limited to the cost of the adoption process, but not the day-to-day costs of raising a child with special needs. However, beginning in tax year 2003, families adopting a child with special needs from foster care, had access to this same tax credit without needing to document expenses. Since tax year 2005, the tax credit is $10,630 and you have the current year and up to the next five years in which to use it. For families that adopted in 2002 or earlier, you can only claim the credit against expenses you paid related to the adoption process.

If you have questions on the adoption tax credit, contact the North American Council on Adoptable Children at 651-644-3036 or You can also visit the IRS website at or call 1-800-829-1040.

Employee Benefits

Employer adoption benefits may include reimbursement for costs, paid or unpaid time-off and other support services. For more information contact the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption at 1-877-777-4222 or, or visit their website.

MAP Success Stories

People always ask us why we chose to adopt. The funny thing is there is no deep reason, we just thought it was something we should do. We are able to have biological children, and we would like to have one eventually, but we knew this was something we should do first. We had love to offer, why not help a child?

We received an adoption broadcast email about a 19-month-old named Kimi and the minute I saw her picture I just knew. The child I had had always dreamed about – her angelic face, her curly hair, her smile; it was like I had dreamed her into existence and here she was on a piece of paper in front of me. We submitted our homestudy and we got the call that we were selected to be her family. She has special needs and we received the case file detailing her history, diagnoses, and prognosis. She has 22q11.2 deletion syndrome, and 16p duplication syndrome which cause her developmental delays but none of that fazed us at all, we were so excited to meet our daughter.

My husband was head over heels. She was absolutely imperfectly perfect, quirky, silly, and the best thing to ever happen to us. She is now four; she struggles with severe verbal apraxia so she can only say four baby words, including mama and dada – which is so heartwarming because she works so hard to say them. She may be verbal one day but it doesn’t matter to us as she is perfect the way she is. We taught her sign language, enrolled her in deaf-education/total communication where they speak and sign everything and she excels there. She is so innocent, and absolutely hilarious. I could never imagine living one day without this child.

We looked into getting a sibling for her, and helping another child with special needs. We applied for a three-year-old boy with Shaken Baby Syndrome whom we saw on the adoption resource exchange website for our state. We expected Levi to have many delays but surprisingly, he doesn’t. He is very bright and physically active. He is somewhat verbally delayed but makes huge gains daily. They adore each other and have so much fun. I feel so proud when I see her signing to him and he understands and can speak and sign back to her and they have a little conversation.

We said we were done adopting but realized life had different plans for us, we felt drawn to look at the website and we came across the profile of a little girl so much like our daughter, the same age, the same sweet personality, even the same curly hair, and with very similar special needs. We know that our experience can help her excel and we were thrilled that our daughter would have a sister so much like her. We were chosen by her workers to be her mommy and daddy and she comes home for good in April, 2013. We know without a doubt that she belongs in our family and have enjoyed our visits with her immensely.

Our experiences with adoption through the foster system have been completely free, relatively easy, and have blessed our family beyond belief x 3. Nothing has ever been more meaningful and more fulfilling to us than this and we hope to encourage others to help children in need, whether it’s by being a mentor, a volunteer, a foster parent, or by becoming a mommy or daddy to a child who needs you.

With Love, Dolores, John, Kimi, Levi, and Grace
May 2013

In 1997 a speaker from the Mississippi Baptist Children’s Village came to address our church congregation on orphan ministry opportunities in our community. My wife and I had no prior knowledge and had given little thought about opening our home to help other people’s children. Our hearts were deeply touched by the stories the speaker recounted. Immediately after the service my wife and I began to consider becoming involved as an extended family to local children from the village. The children at the village are not adoptable as the purpose of the ministry was to provide a safe Christian temporary environment for children whose parents for a variety of reasons (incarceration, drug treatment, financial) could not care for their own kids. What the ministry needed was families to qualify and be trained as ‘extended families’ providing weekend, holiday and summer foster care for the children so they did not have to live 24 x 7 on campus in cottages with many other children. This ministry also allowed children to get one on one adult time and hopefully allowed us to model what a functional loving home looked like.

My wife and I were only able to have one son of our own. We always desired to have a daughter but were never able too. With this ministry we were able to help a little girl and my wife was able to have a young lady in the home (even though temporarily) that she could invest in, love on and teach her about being a lady and sometimes just having fun doing girly things. My wife and I ministered to several girls and a few boys over the next 10-12 years working with the Mississippi Baptist Children’s Village.

Once my son was grown and moved onto college. My wife and I were deciding what next and began for the first time earnestly considering adopting a daughter of our own. We thought we knew something about adoption only to quickly learn we knew little at all. We made all the usual early mistakes by thinking we could venture out on our own but made little headway. Working at the church I had missionary connections all over the world and began to make contacts and let people know that my wife and I were looking to open our home to a Latino girl. We contacted various people in Central and South American countries and were learning about international adoption but were put off on the cost and time it took. We knew we were on the high side of the adoption age and didn’t have time for a two or three year process. I am in my early 50’s but lucky for me I have a wife who is 7 years younger than me. I think because of her age we were at least considered at times.

Anyway, in the summer of 2011 we happened across a local couple that had connected with an adoption agency in a town close to ours. It was a non-profit organization that assisted families with fostering and adoption at no costs. NO COST? Hey that sounded good to us. We at least owed it to ourselves to look into it. We made an appointment with the agency and the head lady said all the right things so we signed on excited about this new opportunity. The agency said it would be no problem for them to locate a Latino girl here in the states that needed adopting.

So we began the cumbersome process of ‘getting approved’. Most anyone reading our story would have that story also. We began in late October 2011 and in March 2012 we got the final process completed. We now knew a whole lot more about adoption but still were very naive about what challenges still lay ahead. Our agency gave us the green light to ‘begin the search’. We clumsily logged thru various Internet websites teaching ourselves along the way about setting up accounts and filtering criteria that helped us narrow the search. Another important factor at this point was our decision to search for sisters. Instead of opening our home to a girl we decided to open our home to girls.

We had no idea that there would be almost a competitive challenge to being matched with the right children. Sometimes a sister group in our desired age range would show up on line and be removed the same week after as many as 80 families submitted their home study. Wow… How are they going to every match us (old people) when so many families are actively looking for the same siblings?

In the summer of 2012 we happened across the AFFEC website and like many others signed on. But this site was different. This was the first time we were able to include our home study and had some control on when and how our information was forwarded for possible matches. This site also allowed us to customize information and photos about our family and our desires to become a forever family for children needing healing, time and a lot of unconditional love. We found children on the AFFEC site that were not listed elsewhere. We also found the site contacts fast and helpful in sharing information and providing useful suggestions. We were very thankful for locating and using this helpful site.

Fast forward to August 2012. A new sister sibling group appeared online and like many before them my wife and I submitted our home study. About 10 days later our agency worker asking us to review the details on these girls and see if we still wanted to be considered as a match contacted us. Like many children they had come from a traumatic background of unfortunate abuse and neglect. But our hearts immediately were drawn to them as we knew that what these precious children needed more than anything was honest love, time to heal, a safe environment where they could flourish and achieve their dreams and goals in life. My wife and I understood more than ever that adoption was never about filling a void in our lives but about filling the void in a child’s life. Giving children a permanent home. My wife and I prayed hard about this decision and made the commitment to open our home to them if they would accept us as a match. Yes we expect that in time they will get better. Yes we will support their continued counseling. Yes we want them to heal. But we need to be their family no matter how difficult the future may be.

We offered our commitment. We went through another few weeks of questions and discussions about specific plans and situations. And then it happened. The phone call that changes many lives. We got THE CALL. We had been selected as a match for these precious girls. Are you kidding me? Us? Out of all the people that put in for these children they want us? Thank you, thank you, thank you Jesus! How awesome that God would entrust us with their care, safety and future.

Then it keeps getting better. We were told we could call them on the phone. No way I can begin to tell you about the first time we heard their voice. Then it keeps getting better. Then they told us to go to their state and meet them. WOW. Last week we spent the week with OUR daughters. Unbelievable. Sadly we had to leave at the end of the week without them. But we call them most every night. We are told that within the next 30 days they should be in our home… permanently. Let the spoiling begin. We are going to love the hurt right out of these girls.

-A MAP Family
September 2012

Here is what happened. I clicked on his picture June 6th. The next day you had his worker was from Walla Walla Wa. and we where headed down to Dayton which is only 32 mile further. I called her up she said that she would look at our home study but may people were looking at him. A week and a half later she called and said we should meet him when we came up. We meet him the next week at a park in Dayton, with out him knowing who we were. We liked him and we told her so when we got home. She called back and arranged a time in July when we could come down and meet with him on his area. The day before we left we had a call from her and she said his foster mom was really burn out and could we take him home with us, he was to visit with us later that month for two weeks, so we did take him home with us and he has not left.

-Sharon McCartney
September 2012

THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU to the Matching Assistance Program.

Norberto and I have been foster parents since 2007 and prior to that we were tribal placement parents for a child from the Oneida Reservation. We have always known we have wanted a large family and began working on our dream shortly after we were married.

We tried for a little over 1 year when we started infertility testing. Years of infertility treatment and no babies in site. We decided to start the process to become foster parents when we were told that Jaymie had stage 1 uterine cancer requiring a radical hysterectomy. There went our dreams to ever have our family. Through our journey we were graced with a beautiful foster baby that just over 1 year later we were able to add him to our forever family through adoption.

We continued to foster and 24 placements later, we still were not able to add to our forever family and actually went through a seemingly never ending nightmare with the foster care system. Our journey took us to our adoption agency that then told us about the interstate adoption program. It was on February 18, 2011 that we joined the Matching Assistance Program.

Through the Matching Assistance Program we got leads on well over 250 children that we inquired on. My MAP specialist was sending me searches weekly, but I was out daily searching and inquiring. We ended up inquiring on 285 children and only heard back on a hand full of those.

Some we were matched to and subsequently decided against, some we were not chosen as the best family. Unfortunately, there are many ups and downs with the adoption journey and you get out only a portion of what you pour in. Working with our adoption specialist and Jennifer and Christy, we stumbled on a sibling group of 4 from Texas. We saw them and inquired on 3/4/11 and found out we were the matching family on 4/18/11.

We waited for what seemed like forever for their files, but it wasn’t even 1 month later. We soon found ourselves reviewing the files, presentation staffing and accepting the children as a possible placement. We then had to wait for the ICPC to be completed which would allow Florida to take over the month to month case evaluation. We found out that the ICPC was approved on July the 8th we were allowed to go visit the kids. We flew out on July 13th and we were able to spend 7 full glorious days with our kiddos, and subsequently found out we were allowed to take them back with us on the plane. There have been extremely minor speed bumps, but all is going very well with our family which is now 5 kids and 2 adults.

It all seemed to take forever when we were going through it all, but when I put it in prospective, from seeing and inquiring on the children to official placement of them, it was 4 months and 19 days, a whirl wind in prospective. As much help as the Match assistance program is, it is dependent on the adoptive families willingness to put in effort.

-Norberto and Jaymie
August 2011

After being in the final selection process more than twice, getting very excited to meet our newest family members, and then being told we were not selected, it was hard to be positive some days. But, we kept at the process, submitting our inquiries and home study, praying (lots and lots of praying) and continued to keep a positive attitude.

We were recently selected, exactly six months after our home study was approved and after inquiring on over 250 groups of siblings. We are beyond thrilled with our match of three siblings, 2 boys and 1 girl, who were living in different foster homes until we were all matched together.

We all fell right into place as a family during our first visit and we could never have dreamed of this day finally coming. It seemed like a very long road (and sometimes a disappointing road) to get here, but when the fit was right for everyone, it was absolutely worth every moment we waited.

-Kristine and Josh Habetler
February 2012

Our journey toward a very lively household began, as do all adoption journeys, with the home study. Our social worker from Catholic Charities was raised on a ranch. We live on a small farm and found that she understood our ways and goals. Friendship, trust and understanding flowed both ways.

Paperwork seemed to take forever, but once the home study was completed we started putting in our home study for children. We were considered, but not chosen for several sibling groups. Discouragement crept into my thinking, but not so much into my husband’s thinking. We both have a very strong faith in God and knew that He was the guiding force in the process. That faith and knowledge did not keep us from discouragement and frustration, but it did keep us moving forward.

Our social worker understood both our faith and our discouragement. From the beginning, she had our permission to send our home study if she saw a child or children that we might be a good family for. She ended up sending in our home study for two little boys ages 3 and 23 months. Our social worker did not tell us she had sent the home study in until she found out we were one of two families being considered for the boys.

What a Friday morning that was! (July 16, 2010) I had worked from midnight until 8am and had just gotten home; my husband was at work when our social worker called to tell us the news. She told us the oldest boy had a kidney disease and then emailed me two pictures of the boys. (Kidney disease is actually a special need we are comfortable with as my husband had been on dialysis for 10½ years and is a living donor kidney transplant recipient.)

The weekend was spent wondering how the meeting on Monday would go and if we would be chosen. Our social worker told us that she probably would not hear until Tuesday because the adoption worker had a placement after the meeting. We heard nothing on Tuesday, but called our social worker and told her we would stop by the office on Wednesday when we were in town. She greeted us at the door with “Hi Mom and Dad” and let us know we were chosen!

After much frustration with two states and their respective paperwork, we brought the boys home on January 29, 2011. Since then, we have been through surgery with the oldest to place a peritoneal dialysis catheter, started him on peritoneal dialysis (which we do at home every night) and enjoyed every minute of getting to know our perfect boys!

Our advice is to give your social worker permission to put your home study in when they see a child or sibling group. Trust and have faith that the right child or children will be in your lives at the time they are destined to be. Don’t be afraid of what you read in the preliminary social services reports about your child. Ask the medical professionals that treat the child for information and guidance.

-Kristina and John
April 2011

One morning in November of 2006 we opened the Register Guard and noticed a picture of a little boy under the heading of Child of the Month for the Heart Gallery of Lane County. A cute little boy named “”Austin” who was looking for a Forever Family. Thus began our journey down the road to adoption. We already had 4 kids of our own from the ages of 9 to19, but only two were still living at home and after a family discussion, with our two boys, we decided to try and adopt a little boy in the 8 year old range.

January of 2007 we began the process. We came to find out we had to take 8 parenting classes, get a background check and then a have a home study done. What we didn’t know was that it would take nearly five months to get all of those things accomplished. Unfortunately, while we were going through this process, Austin the boy we saw in the register guard, had already had his committee set and we weren’t able to be considered.

Austin had his forever family so we started reviewing bulletins looking for another little boy who we could open our home to. Our DHS worker sent new bulletins whenever they came out and she thought they might fit into our home. We found another little boy who we were ready to open our home to that we were selected again for committee if it came to that. Unfortunately for us but great for him, his grandparents found him in the Heart Gallery and were able to be his adoptive resource. A few months later we again found a child we thought would fit well into our home. Our home study was sent and we were selected for committee, but for whatever reason we weren’t selected. This was the point when we really had to ask ourselves if riding this roller coaster of emotion was worth staying on. After talking with Christy Obie-Barrett over and over again and constantly talking with our worker, we decided it was definately worth it.

March 11th of 2008 we were selected at committee for Michael. Later that after noon we were notified we had been selected, but the joy was short lived because we were also told the decision of the committee was going to be reviewed. We then spent the next two months waiting for DHS to decide if we were going to be Michael’s adoptive resource. During this time we asked ourselves many times if this was worth it and there were many occasions we were going to tell DHS to withdraw our name and give up.

We didn’t give up and Michael has been with us for thirty days now and we’re happy he’s joined our family. Everyone is adjusting to having a 6 year old in the house again. The boys are behaving like brothers playing together one minute and arguing the next, so hopefully that’s a good sign.

It’s been 19 months since this journey began and now that Michaels in our home we’re glad we didn’t give up because he deserved to have a forever family and he needed someone to not give up on him. We are very happy to have Michael as our son and hope that someday he comes to love us as we do him.

This is really just the beginning of our journey and now the hard part begins.

-Jenny and Dave H.

We found a 10-year-old boy right here in Texas! Can you believe it? I didn’t want to say anything until things looked really promising, but we looked around in Texas and found Danny. Our agency from Austin contacted us around the end of November and said they wanted to talk to us about him. We met with them in January and about a week later, we had been selected as Danny’s family for adoption out of three couples that were interviewed!

We were all a little blown away but the response has been awesome and the support system has been phenomenal. Danny has been at a treatment facility right here in Austin (I have been driving right by there for two years on the way to work every day) but he is under the care of the County.

We had a great first 2 hour pass here at the house. We stopped at McDonald’s and got hamburgers and fries and came back to the house and ate them at the bar. Ashley, our new in-home therapist, met us here and hung out with us. She is very nice and we all like her. She helped us set up the badminton net (not an easy job while fighting off those pesky gnats).

We played badminton, horse shoes and passed the football. He loved his new bedroom and invited the dogs to jump up on his bed with him and play. He also got a new basket ball and we have a new hoop on the way. Hopefully it will get here by Saturday so we can shoot some hoops on Sunday. He is quite good and loves to “slam dunk” the ball.

On the way back to the treatment home we told him that we loved him no matter what and he smiled. He calls us every night now around 7:30 and tonight he sounded a little down, so we asked him what was wrong and he said he missed us. What a sweet and loving little boy. He will hopefully get to come home by the first of August.

He is a wonderful child and is attaching to both of us! All three of us are happy and blessed. I really wanted to thank you so much for taking up all that time with me and encouraging me and trying to help me find my son. You will never know how much you helped me through this. I truly mean that from the bottom of my heart too. If it hadn’t been for you, I think I would have gone stir crazy. You gave us hope and the courage we needed to not give up and for that I will NEVER forget you.

I guess you can tell we are pretty excited. Danny’s whole world has changed and so has ours. We already love him so much and are spoiling him completely rotten ?

Thanks again Christy and keep up your great work because we see now firsthand what a difference it makes in a child’s life to find a home and feel part of a forever family.

Thanks to you all for your support and love,

-Tom, Todd and Danny
July 2011