"Hi, my name is Jamareon. I like to play video games. And I like to swim. People say I am funny. In our house the rules are no hitting and no swearing. I like the rules in my house, but sometimes they are hard."
"I don't want to be moving again. I want to stay with my [foster] mom. Can we go now?"
There's a good reason Jamareon is adamant about staying in one place. He has been in 13 different placements since he was 4 years old. Nobody should have to lose every classmate and friend that many times. But despite his many moves, Jamareon is a generally happy child, with a quick whit, ready smile, and a contagious giggle! He loves to help and is eager to please. He is social and active, and thrives on individual one on one attention.
Jamareon is also a very bright boy with strong academic abilities. He does well in school and wins people over with his strong sense of humor and cooperative attitude. He is very athletic and enjoys sports. His foster parents think he is especially gifted in football. He loved playing flag football last year, as well as T-ball and soccer. He is eager to join a family and show off his skills as they cheer him on at his ball games. Jamareon likes to attend his foster families LDS church, and would like to continue to go to church in the future even if it is not LDS.
Jamareon's tentative relationship building approach is evident as every interaction with someone new involves exploration and discovery to find out how long they will be a part of his life. Given many early years of disrupted attachment, Jamareon especially needs parents who will absolutely committed to him. Jamareon has created bonds with his current foster family and would like to maintain some form of contact with them as he grows up.
He also needs to be significantly the youngest, or only, child. Parents will need to have a strong understanding of attachment difficulties, and know how to effectively handle outbursts of anger and frustration. Because of his early childhood trauma, Jamareon may have a tendency to sabotage relationships while at the same time really wanting someone to love him. Patience and willingness to delay their need gratification will see his new family through the transition into their family and beyond. Complete and total commitment, love, patience, and understanding will go a long way to foster true attachment over time.
Jamareon's adoption team is looking for skilled couple that's got a strong relationship, or a single parent with a solid support system, who is willing to give Jamareon what he really deserves, a true permanent family of his own.